When your kids grow into teenagers well-meaning people have lots of advice. Right now 2 of my 4 kids are teenagers, with the third having a birthday next week and turning 13. So far, teenage things haven't been unbearable. We have the occasional attitude, but overall our kids are fantastic, fun to be around, and make great decisions. They also serve God with their whole heart. So, when our oldest daughter was turning 17, she met a guy and started a new parenting journey for us - dating.
Honestly, I couldn't believe how easy it was. He was perfect and I quickly became the president of his fan club lol. I was so proud to talk about my daughter's boyfriend and felt like this could possibly be the easiest part of parenting so far. He was adorable, responsible, loved God, hard worker, family guy, funny, really I could go on and on. The whole family bonded with him and for a year and 3 months he was the 7th member of our family.
I was completely emotionally unprepared when he told my daughter last week that they needed to spend some time apart. That they just needed to grow apart from each other and maybe this is permanent, maybe not. :( I realized that I could hardly help her because I was grieving too much myself. But really- he had already called me mom several times and was a part of every good memory for the last year- what else could I do.
We- my daughter and I - will get through this and sadly some scar tissue will remain. I know from my own growing up years that being hurt by someone you love takes its toll on trusting any one else. And as far as my "mommy in law crush" Im sure I will love the next guy as much. But something will keep my heart guarded and not trusting all the way, just in case... And there will never be another first time someone besides your kids calls you "Mom"
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
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